Things you should ask yourself before getting married

Guest Post
Written by Toni Bowman for the marriage series ‘Now that the Honeymoon is over’

Hey there! Hope all is well. Today’s hang out is the first part of the seven-part marriage series with Shelly and me. I will start it out by sharing some things I believe are worth taking the time to ask yourself before getting married.

If you are just beginning to date, have been dating for a while, you’re engaged, or you have nothing more than the thoughts of being a spouse someday, please ask yourself the following questions and be honest with your responses. Then analyze and study your answers to decide if you are seriously ready to take the next step towards marriage.

1. Am I truly ready to be married and commit to becoming someone’s life-long partner?

When you marry, you merge two individuals together that become one team with the same mission and core values. Moving forward, pretty much everything you do and just about every decision you make, you must include and consider your partner’s thoughts, feelings, and concerns. It’s no longer just about you. So, are you willing to make someone an equal partner in your decisions regarding the rest of your life?

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If you missed my interview on Toni’s blog last week, make sure to check it out here for some background before diving further into the series.

We will be continuing the series next week Thursday with ‘Reasons why you should consider delaying your wedding’.

Till next time!

6 Comments Add yours

  1. PoojaG says:

    It’s kind of weird but a lot of people don’t think about this so I’m so glad this is the first thing she mentioned. A lot of times it’s more about attraction or infatuation rather than real love. It’s definitely important to think about whether or not you are ready to spend forever with the person. I have seen a bunch of friends get married without thinking long-term and it rarely ends well.

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    1. Lady B says:

      Exactly! A lot of times we are living in the moment and our feelings, but never truly think about the life changes that will be made once we become someone’s forever. Thanks so much for your response. I hope you’re able to read the full post on my site and leave some feedback there as well. 🤗

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      1. PoojaG says:

        Thank you and I absolutely will!

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  2. Lady B says:

    I am so glad that we are doing this series together! I cannot wait until next week’s post to hear your perspective on reasons to delay your wedding. I can definitely think of several of my own, lol.

    On another note, I thought I already left a comment, but I clicked the post again and didn’t see anything. Please forgive me if two comments show up for me later. 🤦🏽‍♀️


  3. annmary0723 says:

    this is all so true! people often get married without thinking about the consequences, and they don’t think deeply about their decisions. great article!


    1. Shelly DS says:

      Thanks for sharing you thoughts Ann. Do make sure you read the full article on Toni’s page 😉


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