What do you fantasise about before falling asleep? As the President of Overthinking, this no doubt involves an elaborate version of your future that has the tiniest chance of happening. For me, my thoughts turn not to a particular event, but to a lifestyle. Perhaps a vision of gifting my father his dream car on his 60th birthday, or (when I’m feeling most ambitious) a vision of leaving a London penthouse and being chauffeur-driven to a yacht. All before sailing around the coast of Monaco.
Alright, these may be overly ambitious and an indulgent make-believe, but they represent your idea of perfection. Your ideal life being lived in an ideal way. Whilst these dreams may be years away (if at all), you can still incorporate elements of that happiness into your own present day. So, to all my over-thinkers, here are 4 ways to make your “bedroom fantasies” just that bit more attainable.
Guest Post by: Grammatic of London (my real-life friend)
Savour Small Items as Small Victories
Is your dream apartment or luxury skincare routine still an unattainable dream of yours? Well while you’re still saving towards your grail pieces, it does no harm to get smaller pieces from the brand that fit your current budget better, to get a slight taste of that dream. Doing this gives you more of an appreciation for the overall brand, and makes your grail piece even more appreciated when it does arrive.
Doing this doesn’t have to break the bank! You can sweep up a beautiful collection at almost any price point. And it allows your present to have a dose of guilty pleasure – without losing sight of the end goal. Even small items can transform your space and your mood. So instead of waiting years for your penthouse with custom book-nook, incorporate throw pillows and fluffy blankets in your own private space that will make you feel like royalty during your wind-down time. Small items are indeed small victories, savour them!
Create a Wishful Thinking Playlist
Music has the power to change your mood and set an ambiance far from actual reality. So harness the power of your playlist to set a mood matching your ambition. Dream of living in the Big Apple, or spending your weekends jet-setting to luxury beach resorts? Well, add a few “audio ambiances” to your night-time routine, such as the calming ocean waves of Thailand, to take you on a holiday without the jet-lag!
Even better, craft a playlist that makes you feel like you’re living your best life, and play it when your mind decides to wander to your perfect reality. As for me, I’ve named my playlist “SW7” after the London postcode I want to live in, and have filled it with music that makes me think of never-ending nights, tall skyscrapers, and pretty girls wearing expensive fragrances – the perfect symphony to fall asleep to!
Related: The Power of Music
Take Positive Steps to Influence your Future:
Small wins are great for your present happiness, but we want you to eventually achieve everything you’re dreaming of. And that requires hard work! No one will believe your dream life as much as you do, so block out the nay-sayers and focus on your mission!
Dream of a perfect and happy relationship before tucking yourself in for the night? Manifest it, by calling into existence the qualities you’re looking for in a significant other. And don’t forget to fix the weaker areas in your own offering while you’re at it. You’d be surprised how people who learn to love themselves attract just that – more and more love!
What if your bedtime mind-wanderings involve travel or a certain lifestyle? Well, this, unfortunately, involves money. So keep working hard at your job, and explore a side-hustle to supplement your dream! There’s nothing better to motivate hard work than realising your dream on the other end. So keep your head down and keep pushing – it’ll all be worth it in the end. You just need to take the first plunge!
Dream your Future into Existence
A happy moment is never a wasted moment. Keep dreaming, and keep some self-care time to do what makes you happy. Although I am very far away from ordering my own Range Rover, that certainly doesn’t stop me from configuring one online and ticking all the bells and whistles! This may seem like a waste of time to some, but to me, it is absolutely therapeutic. Online “window-shopping” (harrods.com is a particular weakness of mine) and planning holidays far above my pay grade does wonders for my motivation. You should see my productivity at work the next day! Focusing on the future is great, ladies and gentlemen, but never forget to enjoy your present. Keep up those bedroom thoughts, it’s what makes you, you!