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  1. Jan says

    Great post with some very real points! I can totally relate to needing a break. Even as a hobby blogger it takes a lot of time and energy to write up good content.
    And I really value feedback too. That’s the main satisfaction to me as a blogger. To hear that my content was useful.

  2. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) says

    Good points Shelly. Yes, sometimes it’s hard to stay motivated. I have had a few times in the last couple of weeks when I sat down to write and just said “nah…I don’t feel like it”. Luckily those days are rare. I think I should take them as a sign that the post I want to write isn’t what I should be writing.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks Michelle. You’re right~ funny enough I’m having one of those periods… all the content that has gone up over the past 2 or 3 weeks was already scheduled 😅

  3. daciar says

    I love seeing comments and likes! I smile every time I see a new one. New Follows really brightens my day, though. Personally, being followed tells me you like my content and definitely want more of it.
    I know you can’t always base whether you like a blog or not on a single post, but if you see multiple ones that interest you then follow the blog.

  4. Hilary Tan says

    I admit I’m overly generous with #3 and will give tons of advice, leave lengthy comments on other blogs and my own in response to people’s comments, and try my best to be available outside of blogging as well. I have been receiving lengthy emails from other bloggers on top of blogging, which is beginning to really cut into my time. I feel like I need to respond to these emails because it would be rude of me if I didn’t, but at the same time, it’s all for free. And yet, not having an email really limits opportunities.

    I’ve made $0 from blogging (free blog but domain name was taken and I don’t have a better name). My blog might be free but my time certainly isn’t….

    • Shelly DS says

      That’s very nice of you! I love reading your detailed comments because it actually shows that you read the piece and had some thoughts about it. When it comes to actual advice, it’s very kind of you to give as much of it as you can. The biggest issue is when people expect a prompt response or basically get you to walk them through starting a blog to publishing every single post!

  5. Eromonsele Emmanuel says

    You’re that blogger to me at the moment Shelly. There’s always something new to read on year and for me this year, I’ve just been chilling cos I need a clear head. Hope I can write up to 20 articles cos relaxing can be so much fun. 🤣🤣🤣

    You’re right. And that’s why I prefer dropping comments to liking blogposts because even though they kinda pass the same message, it’s important for bloggers to see the engagement.

    Cheers to better days on the blogosphere!

  6. Shahrin says

    Love the honesty✨🙌🏽🙌🏽

    Can relate to all of them —my appreciation for bloggers has gone through the roof since I started my own page. Feedbacks really gives you the boost.

    My other confession would be: I am afraid of taking breaks, I feel like if I were to, people would forget about my site and all the hard work gone🙈xx

  7. PoojaG says

    YES to all of these especially about the advice! I get emails and DM’s every day asking me for advice and all kinds of things and people actually have sent me incredibly rude replies when I take some time to reply or when I tell them I have advice posts they could check out instead of sending a detailed reply even though the posts discuss exactly what they’re asking about.

    • Shelly DS says

      Yikes that’s not nice at all… Don’t take it to heart though, people need to learn not to feel entitled. Any advice you give is out of your kindness not obligation!

    • justcalmwildness says

      I relate to this, Pooja. It happens a lot to me too. People come in expecting that I become some sort of counselor because I do mental health content. It is so frustrating.

      • PoojaG says

        Yeah it gets very annoying and sometimes if someone is really rude I just end up ignoring them. It’s unfair of people to assume that you will or even can help them just because you write certain kinds of posts.

  8. Kally says

    So on point, Shelly. Commenting and replying really does take up a chunk of my time. I try my best to do it everyday but often find that I will be taking away time from spending with my daughter. The key is to find a balance somewhere.

    • Shelly DS says

      Yes it absolutely does take time away from the family! I often find myself pushing it over and eventually not getting it done as often as I’d like because I don’t want to miss time with my daughter

  9. Anonymous says

    I love this, Shelly. You have said all that I keep thinking abou. This is beautiful. I love it.💖💝💝

  10. noemail says

    Well, one of my thoughts would be that the blogger is usually writing on a topic that helps (offers free advice) people in some sort of niche that they are familiar with. In my own case, I’ve been helping people find new jobs (I’m a career coach, not a recruiter) for over 17 years. That means that I have 17 years’ worth of experience in this initiative. That’s about the same thing a doctor goes through. Now I’m NOT saying I should be paid at the same level as a doctor, I AM saying that my advice is worth something. If I give you some help through the blog, that’s great, and the reason I wrote the post in the first place. If I may ask, though, if you are unemployed, I’ve also written a book (a 10-year project) that’s only $20. And it’s money-back guaranteed. If you don’t like it, or get value from it, I’ll return your money. But I can see people’s eyes rolling saying something like “but I’m unemployed! Give me a break! Money is tight!” And yes – I get that. But I need to keep the wolves away from my door too. That means I wrote these blog posts and my book, and compiled useful information to HELP people land faster, so they can start earning again. I mean, it’s only $20.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks for reading and sharing your thoughts. I think you are absolutely justified in feeling that way. Your time is not free, so people should respect it enough to just buy the book! Apologies for taking so long to reply, your comment had gone to my spam folder 🙁

  11. joloyolo says

    One of the things I find difficult not to write is when it includes other people. I often leave them out of the story because of the privacy of the situation but if I left in what was in my original notes it may be more interesting or amusing to read.
    I enjoyed your post!

  12. Anonymous says

    Great post! We’re still starting our blog and balancing it next to student life and side jobs. But I already recognize what you said about likes and comments, they work so motivating! For me it lets me know that people are actually reading and liking what we write and not just friends that press the link as a favor 😉

  13. Forestwood says

    I have found the blogging community to be super positive but then I think like attracts like. There are blogs that are out to make money and others who are just wanting to write, or maybe post some photos. The community and demographic behind each blogging style is vastly different. You just gotta love writing! Thanks for mentioning DA in your other post. I was not aware of that.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks for reading! And you’re right, we all blog for different reasons, but at the end of the day I think we all love it. I mean, it takes heaps of time and energy… and to write in a time when people prefer to watch videos is quite the commitment! I wish you luck with the DA 😉

      • Forestwood says

        Thank you. I think you are right. It does take energy and the ones who stick around for as long as I have – must enjoy it!


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