Welcome to what feels like day hundred of Blogmas! If you’ve clicked on this post, you are most likely looking for something special to gift your friends and loved ones for Christmas. To be honest, there are too many lists out there already. Who cares for generic lists anyway? What I want to focus on more is the actual process of finding the best gifts so that you’re not just covered for this Christmas. Hopefully, you’ll have the necessary skills to get you through every holiday season that follows!

Get to know your person
This is a little obvious but very important in the gift giving game. It isn’t enough to just assume that because the person you are gifting would be happy with a generic present. By this I mean assuming that the person would be happy to receive perfume (girls) or a watch (men). In order to truly gift someone with something special, you need to know what they really like. You also need to know what they don’t like, what activities they love doing etc. Once you’ve gotten that down, we can move on to the next step.
Find out what they have and don’t have
Every human on this earth is unique with nuances specific to them. Once you have figured out that unique string of DNA in your person that makes them who they are, you need to figure out just what it is in that niche that they don’t already have. In my post on ‘Christmas Gifts for Him‘, I mentioned that if a man loves sport, he would most likely be happy with a signed t-shirt from his favourite team. If that sounds a little too hefty for your budget, don’t fret. There is memorabilia for all wallet sizes! This is a simple tip that applies to both guys and girls.
Take walks in shopping centres with your person
If you’ve come as far as to search for how to pick the perfect Christmas gift or looked at several gifting guides for him and her, then you are most likely on close terms with the person you are gifting. My advice is to to stroll through malls with the person with you detective hat. Look at specials on sites (inconspicuously of course) and just see what they actually react to. Ask lot’s of questions along the lines of “what do you think about <insert object> for <random person>? Don’t tell them that you are looking for them of course, else the gift would be ruined. To actually get away with this kind of spy work, you need to start weeks in advance of the occasion.
Pick the gift that makes your eyes roll
Gifts are meant to please the person who receives them, not the person who is giving them. We’ll let that marinate for a second. What that means is that you can’t base the decision on how the gift will make you feel. An example I will use is a playstation or a toy model car; just because it may be of little value to you and may actually cause you to roll your eyes, it does not mean that you should forgo the gift. Quite the opposite actually. I say this specifically for people in relationships – the gifts that make you roll your eyes are most likely the thing your partner would love most.
Delete any piece of evidence that may ruin the surprise
Again, a very obvious tip but you would be surprised how many times I have ruined my husband’s gifts by failing to erase the evidence. An example of this is his birthday present from 2019… during this time, I had secretly teamed up with his brother to secure a day of lessons on a motorcycling course. I deleted all the messages and even made sure to pay from a separate account. What I forgot was that the school had called me to confirm the date and time and I had saved their name in my contact list. The rest is history… So what is the moral of the story? Hide all the evidence or risk ruining the surprise!
Phew, it feels like a classroom experience doesn’t it? Don’t worry, we’ll stop here for today. Just remember, if you are able to master the above tips, your gifts will definitely be more personal and likeable.
Are there any other tips you would add to the list?
Happy shopping!
Beautiful post. Adore how thoughtful it is. We enjoy giving presents, too. But with my sisters, sometimes they tell me what they want or I ask them what they want. Makes life easy but no surprise.
Absolutely agree that getting to know the person is essential is picking out the right gift. IF you don’t don’t know what they like or don’t like, then how can you choose a gift for them? lol
I like your statement about — “pick a gift that makes their eyes roll’ — I was actually taught to pick a gift that I would like but I hated that. I mean, why buy something for someone else that I would want. Also people have different tastes. Regardless of whether or not I like or not, they might and that is most important. Should always cater to their interests.
Exactly! Picking something you like isn’t always the best solution for the reason you mentioned. Unless of course you are picking your own gift to give someone who will wrap it and give it back to you 😅
Yes getting to know the person’s likes and dislikes is key to gift giving. I also used the “what do you think about bkank item” as a way of determining what gifts to buy. I always keep an open ear for things people talk about a lot as a way of picking gifts. G and I are open books with each other. We will just outright share links to gifts we would like 😄
That’s next level, I love that! Don’t you want to be surprised though? I love it when I get surprised with something nice every once in a while 😊
We still always get each other a gift that is a surprise. Usually it’s a fun silly gift like funny underwear 😂 We do surprise sentimental gifts for our anniversary.
It’s still dificult to buy for another person
I don’t have a lot of gifts to buy this year, but this is great advice. I like the idea of taking them out shopping and just observing what they’re interested in.
I’m with you on not buying a lot of gifts this year. This covid thing has made it simple like that! At least on my end.
Thanks for reading 💖
Good advice! I love the one about talking walks with the person you’ll be buying a gift for. Sneaky!! 😂
Very nice and intuitive. I am that kind of idiot who gives other person my Amazon ‘wishlist’ 😀
Lol that’s not a bad thing to do unless you are gifting your own wishlist 😅
Thanks for reading!
Great advice! I 100% agree with that idea about browsing in shopping centres with whoever you’re buying a gift for – I’ve done that before and it was so helpful. Thanks for sharing!
Yay glad to have someone who can testify to it 😊
Thanks for reading 💖
these are great tips! I also love planing beforehand, I mean waay before, whenever I hear my friend saying “oh I’d love to have this thing” I constantly write that somewhere to remember for the upcoming occasion
That’s awesome! I wish we could take a walk through a mall so I can inconspicuously give you my entire wishlist 😀
haha, who knows maybe one day that will be possible 😄♥️
VR works now already 😛
I love these ideas. I totally agree with strolling the mall together. I’m going to be posting about something similar with gift giving, this week! 🤗 I’ve learned a lot more when having trouble with my hubby that communication on a regular basis plays a huge part in my struggle with buying him gifts. You’d think after being together a total of 22 years that I’ve got him down to a science, not quite!🤦🏽♀️😩🤣
Lol people are always changing, so you will never know a person completely. I guess that’s the fun part? You seem to take pride and really enjoy the little adventures you throw together!
I’m excited to red your post! 😊
Yes, and he changes or what we love to say “evolves” OFTEN! I do enjoy making each moment special and memorable! Thank you!