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  1. PoojaG says

    These are all so relatable! I’m not that obsessed with stats these days but for like the first three years I kept refreshing and checking if I got any more views like every two minutes lol. I have also gotten quite a bit of hate this year- not too much just a few horrible comments from a couple of people- and it was difficult but at the end of the day I think it made me stronger.

    • Shelly DS says

      Haha I would be so surprised if after 6 years you still checked every time! As for the hate comments, forget them. They even sat down to read your stuff so that should tell you something ain’t lining up! 😪

  2. Hilary Tan says

    Surprisingly I don’t check the stats that much or promote my blog posts elsewhere. I can totally relate to the need to connect with other bloggers and engage with them, which takes up a large portion of my day. I’m not disciplined enough to write weekly blog posts because I’m lazy, but it’s something that I hope to improve upon.

    I’ve had a couple of trolls but it was minor and they weren’t necessarily hate comments on my blog posts, but on comments I made on other bloggers’ blog posts. The saddest thing is seeing bloggers leave because of bullies and trolls.

  3. olivialucieblake says

    I can relate to the point you made about stats and numbers. Its so easy to become obsessed with them! I try to remind myself whey i started and usually that brings me back down to earth again!

  4. beth says

    hahahaha – you are so spot on! and your #2, my family and friends always yell out, “is this going to be a blog/!” when something happens. they are usually right !

  5. nirajshah2003 says

    This is relatable!! I will be honest, I am obsessed with stats at the moment, I always want as many people as possible to read/comment/like my blog so I do check it every hour or so whenever I publish a blog! It’s something I certainly aim to let go of this obsession after a while 🙂

  6. Jay-lyn Doerksen says

    I have been relatively lucky in regards to upsetting or angrying anyone. Once I did and not only was there a comment on the post but also not one but 2 feedback comments. One trashing me and the other apologizing for calling my poetry schoolyard like. Now I scanned the first one and snorted with derision because my life my poems and what you think matters not. There is a follow/unfollow button for a reason. Second feedback was the apology one with a little snark thrown in. Which lead to my poem about trolls and how truthfully they do not piss me off….more I am dying laughing and about to share your idiocy for the world (or my small portion of it) to read. At least have decency to leave me a real name if you want to slam my work. Stats are something that I was into in the beginning and when there was a dip I would wonder what I was doing wrong. But it goes in cycles. Numbers tend to be lower during the summer months even with Covid I am noticing. I began writing for myself and I still do. I enjoy sharing my poetry and writing with those who like it. Chase not for the chased shall run instead beckon with tasty tidbits of life and fun. Sorry just made that up. Have an amazing day Shelly. 🙂

    • Shelly DS says

      Jay you always put a smile on my face! So much wisdom behind that screen eh? It’s sad that people waste their time posting things that aren’t nice, rather don’t say anything at all! As for the stats, I do think this is every rookie’s issue~ once you’ve been around the block a bit it should just die down 😊

      • Jay-lyn Doerksen says

        Not really lol almost four years later and I check. First thing in morning. Stats and check comments for spam or misplaced comments and the feedback. My spam comments in last two years have pretty much been nil

      • Jay-lyn Doerksen says

        Ah normalcy is so boring. Writers are not normal. And any who try to tell you different are on the run from the Book Mob. We are the dreamers world creators wordsmith and the list goes on. Normal is well……😂😂😂😂😂😋😋😋

      • Jay-lyn Doerksen says

        I would love to too. Virtual coffee is the way these days! And thank you. I am above all else a work in progress and happiness is a relatively new experience for me (happiness with self and acceptance) I don’t know where I was going to end that. I am a WIP and loving it. Who I am today and who I was there years ago at this time are on opposite ends of the spectrum. And this me is the greatest me I have ever met. And the ones to come. Lol see weird I am talking about my future self as selves melding into one. Ok stopping now before I write a whole blog in your comments

  7. Jane Tawel says

    This is spot on and completely true down to the last “jot and tittle” for my own experience. Quite fun to read and you are really an excellent writer, so I am very glad you have “two lives” in which to express your “different selves” and that you have chosen to share this wonderful blogging one with all of us. Happy Whatever Day today is — Jane

  8. Krisna says

    First off, from now on I will call you Michelle lol! 🤪 Why is this so true?! With regards to stats, I love seeing when I get views from other parts of the world besides Canada. I’m like yay my blog is reaching someone from India or UK or Jamaica or Cameroon! It feels awesome!🙈🤷🏻‍♀️

    • Shelly DS says

      Haha you can definitely call me Michelle, but that’s reserved for the people who I want to distance emotionally 😛 Jokes jokes (maybe 😉 ) but yeah you’re so right Krisna, seeing that your writing is touching all parts of the world is such a satisfying and humbling feeling!

      • Krisna says

        Lol!! Jokes aside I’m really glad you wrote this post. It’s so relatable in so many respects especially for a new blogger like me. For example, this morning I decided I won’t touch WP all day but here I am responding to comments at 11:30pm. Can’t even last 24 hours lol!

  9. justcalmwildness says

    These are so on point. I was just thinking today how blogging can get addictive and no matter how high the stats go you will still want more.

  10. Clarissa says

    Yes I can definitely relate to some of these! The one about the starts and the screen time especially. The screen time is a little concerning for me. I see so many people wiring about digital detoxing and I think I need more of that, but it’s hard when you blog! I need to figure out how best to do that. Thanks so much for this!

  11. Eromonsele Emmanuel says

    This is totally relatable Shelly, when I first started out my stats used to be a factor of me having a bad day or good day. However, I tend to care less and focus more on the writing part nowadays.

  12. Nishtha Pande` says

    As a fellow blogger, this is so relatable! I couldn’t agree more with #1.. I have found myself too to be obsessed with stats on all the mediums I am using to promote the blog. Sometimes it gets very overwhelming and you need a break from it all. Hopefully #5 does not happen. Internet is filled with trolls though. Let’s hope for the best!

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks for reading Nishtha! Trolls will be there no matter what but I guess the true test of character comes when dealing with such! Good luck 💖

  13. Suzanne says

    It’s so good to know that I’m not the only one who has a different Blog Persona than Real Life Persona! I mean… I am pretty true to life on my blog, but I think I tend to be much more reserved in real life. Someone even called me Even Keeled the other day! That is NOT me! And if you read my blog you will know that in about five seconds! But I guess I hide the anxieties and All Capsness pretty well in person?

    • Shelly DS says

      Hahaha yeah I think it’s generally the case for most of us~ and it’s not being a different person per se, it’s just voicing a part of who we are! It’s definitely not appropriate or logical to act the same in all settings 😅 well at least that’s what I tel myself. You do come across as ‘even keeled’ though 😊 you AREN’T that put together?

  14. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) says

    This is so relatable! I was never obsessed with stats until they started to go up! Now I am checking all the time. I find time gets away from me when I work on my blog. There’s always something to do. Thanks for a great post.

  15. georgierainford says

    I love this! It’s good to know its not just me. Number 4 is something I really struggle with. I’m thinking stick to blogging time on the laptop and just try manage my insta time a little bit better as I go… I’m v. new to blogging! Thanks for posting x

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks for reading Georgie 😊 I’m new at this too but have already fallen into the black hole. I’ll steal your tip and try stick with set hours too 🙈 PS your blog is awesome! You don’t seem like a newbie at all!

  16. Amber Page says

    I am guilty of everything you mentioned here! Due to starting my blog in lockdown, I had all the time in the world to work on it. Now things are getting back to normal I am spending way less time blogging and I feel guilty for it when I know I shouldn’t!

    Amber – The Unpredicted Page

    • Shelly DS says

      Hahaha what’s the guilt about though? Like where does this evil monster come from? I think we all have one of those! I completely understand the “starting my blog in lockdown” situation because I do not have a clue how to keep this up once I have to get back to the real world! If you figure it out, please share the secret!

  17. kavochinadel says

    Stats things is so right😂I remember when I started my blog 6months ago I was so obsessed and their times I could be depressed as I only had 5followers , I almost gave up but with time I came to understand that it’s a process and it will take time

  18. Bolaji Gelax says

    Please, where is the lie in this? 😂

    My friends now say, “What I’m about to tell you, promise me you won’t blog about it”, and I’m like, is it that bad? 😂

  19. mypurposediaries says

    This is so accurate!!! Especially #1!! The stats drive me crazy…I start to compare myself to other bloggers and ask myself what am I doing wrong…as if my 2-month should have blown up. I need to stay focused on my own (digital) paper.

    • Shelly DS says

      Don’t worry, it’s unhealthy but very common 😅 I’ve been at it for 8 months now and still struggle with the stats! Keep running your own race though. It’s supposed to be fun and comparing yourself to other bloggers will take the fun out of it!

  20. Helen says

    this is very true!! One thing I don’t like about blogging is that I have to spend more time online on my phone. I don’t like that as it takes me away from the here and now. What I need to learn is how to juggle both of my two lives — blogging one and non blogging one

  21. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) says

    Oh yes! Blogging addict here, too! We need to start our own support group – BAA (Blogging Addicts Anonymous). I’m definitely always checking my stats and my screen time is way up, but it’s more productive than Candy Crush! I have been lucky to not have experienced the hate comments.

    • Shelly DS says

      Omg yes! I’d love to be a part of BAA 😊
      You’re smack on with the candy crush bit. Since blogging, I can finally justify my screen time too 😂

  22. somdattadeb says

    I was more obsessed with stat at the beginning used to refresh every hour. Nowadays both my screen time and stat checking frequency has reduced.

  23. Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji says

    Absolutely relatable
    Although I keep checking on my stats page every now and then, I keep reminding myself why I started blogging and stats weren’t part of the plan. ….

    Two personalities – absolutely
    Am naturally a laid back typa person but my blog brought a different version of who I am and I must admit – I love the lady behind the screen more because she’s more real, relaxed and vocal

  24. Delicate and brutal says

    I have missed reading your posts! I was TOTALLY guilty of #1 on your list for a little while. Then I said to myself “Amy you’re blogging in order to share your story. Not to impress anyone.” So then I stopped focusing on stats.

  25. Anonymous says

    love this post Shelly and writing and blogging but the screen time is brutal💖💖


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