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    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks Michelle. Yeah, every single situation in life can definitely be a learning experience. I wouldn’t change the past because it is what made me who I am today, and I’m sure yours did too. Thanks for reading!

  1. Lady B says

    Very well written, Shelly! Thankfully, I met my husband at 16yo and married him at 19yo. I don’t have enough dating experience, but maybe when he and I get a little bit older, I will write him a letter thanking him for what he’s taught me. And, this movie sounds very interesting, so I’m going to look for it.

  2. Toma Ruh says

    This is good!! Such a mature and nice way to just put the things that have been on your mind on paper. I imagine this could be a good exercise for someone that is struggling to let go or has recently ended a relationship.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks Toma! Yeah you’re right, it’s definitely good for someone who is fresh out of a relationship. But I think it’s something we all need to do to make sure we are completely baggage-free!

  3. imifarm says

    Such a good way to put a positive spin on relationships that hurt you. I’m also a huge fan of to all the boys I’ve loved films 💕

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks hun! For a long time I actually felt embarrassed about these relationships. I actually reached out to an old friend and they so “generously” sent me a screenshot of some things I had said about 5 years ago about myself and it made me mad. Writing this was therapeutic. It helped me unravel the feelings of anger I had towards my friend for keeping screenshots of our conversation.

      • imifarm says

        I can completely relate to feeling embarrassed about past relationships. I still do sometimes. That’s so horrible of your friend and I’m sorry they did that. I can’t fathom why they would! Xx

  4. Shahrin says

    This is beautiful —made me all emotional. Went and read your piece on “number forever”.
    Love teaches you everything you need to know about life xx

    • Shelly DS says

      Aww thanks Shahrin. You’re absolutely right, love does teach you everything you need to know about life! I’m so grateful to have learned these lessons early on.

  5. Delicate and brutal says

    The raw emotion you display in this post is tangible! This is my favorite piece of yours that I have read so far. I really felt the pain you described and wish I was there as your friend holding your hand as you went through that.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks hun 😊 it’s nice to be able to look back and identify what each relationship did to me, so at least I can work on each thing. I’m very happy with my “number forever” 💖

  6. missybeelondon says

    Omg a blast from the past tried to message me on Instagram recently, I was thinking and had much to say. But in the end I didn’t bring up the old stuff. I know myself. And to stay focused on the good things. And he was/is not worth it.
    Maybe face to face. As it would of been frustrating back and forth slow replies on social media.
    I am wiser.
    Great post

  7. missybeelondon says

    And adding on to the fact that I can be compassionate and not bitter, to understand now that they were going through things, but was unable to tell me.
    I am slightly embarrassed as I wish I knew more about good relationships back then. But still learnt.

  8. justcalmwildness says

    This is so beautiful. I loove it so much. May be one of these days I will find the courage to write something like this.

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