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  1. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) says

    I get what you say about the fear. It doesn’t go away when they grow up. At 21 and 18, I still worry about my girls every day.

    For me being a parent is about always putting their needs before your own. I know some parenting “experts” disagree but, for me, that’s how it is.

  2. Azilde Elizabeth says

    Awesome post. Parenting is the hardest job out there. I never understood that meaning until I became a mom. I have 3 boys and one has special needs. Life isn’t easy but I am so blessed!

  3. Mamalava says

    You sound like an amazing mom! Your daughter will grow up knowing how loved she is! Parenting isn’t easy, but it sure is rewarding… done well, your investment pays off in huge ways for you, your child, and the world! Your encouragement is spot on!

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks hun! There are many days that I feel like I could be a better mom, and then there are days when I feel like I’ve nailed it. What I’ve realized in both instances is that my daughter doesn’t love me any less. That’s the biggest reward of being a parent!

  4. Hilary Tan says

    Beautifully written post! Being a parent doesn’t get a lot of recognition and it is a very hard job. I always knew that I was supposed to be a mom ever since I was very little. Part of it was for selfish reasons like wanting to have my own family because I’ve always hated being an only child. It took a while adjusting to being a parent – my in-laws thought I wasn’t a very good mom but I’ve come a long way. Adjusting from only child to being completely selfless took a while but it made me a stronger person.

    In terms of working hard to secure a brighter future for our children, I couldn’t agree more with this statement. My daughter is the reason why I went back to school in order to provide supplemental income. Sure, we could live off of my husband’s income but that wasn’t good enough for us if she is to have the life that we had growing up. Now I’m working and contributing to her future which gives me a lot of fulfillment and purpose. I want to be a role model for her.

    • Shelly DS says

      Gosh Hilary you’re such a great mom! Your kids (has the second graced this horrible world yet 🤔) are very lucky to have such a selfless mom! I don’t see you wanting to be a mom as a selfish thing. You were certain of the family you wanted and that’s a great thing!

      • Hilary Tan says

        Hi Shelly! I will be 31 weeks tomorrow and this child enjoys kicking my poor stomach 😓 Being a parent is hard – especially being a parent to a 4-year old demands my attention. It is a thankless job for sure, but a really rewarding one! ❤

      • Shelly DS says

        Oh wow so close! You’re almost at the finish line… or the starting line. Which one is it? Either way, as hard as it is, I’m sure you forget all the bad when she does the cutest things ☺️

      • Kally says

        Congratulations! I’m sure you are pretty excited. Celebration is for sure, looking forward in reading the happy announcement on your blog soon.

  5. Dacia says

    I have two kids and hear everything they do at night. They could roll over in their bed and I wake up then wait to see if they’re just rolling or if they’re going to wake up and need me. I feel like being a parent is walking a fine line. I want to set an example and teach them to follow my good example, but not to the point where they don’t know who they are.

    • Shelly DS says

      I love how honest you are. It’s a very hard balance to find and we will make mistakes, but we gotta show our little ones that it’s ok to make mistakes as long as we learn from them. Your kids will be just fine, mama! 😉

      • Dacia says

        I agree so much. I think admitting our mistakes to our kids is so important, too. And thank you, they seem to be doing great so far!

  6. Bosssybabe says

    The biggest thing for me is being kinder to myself and being strong for someone else. If I was by myself I might settle for less than happiness or 100% success, but now that I have a daughter I feel like everything I do affects her (whether directly or indirectly). I also want her to see a strong female figure in her life and I want her to be proud of me ❤️

  7. C a t a r i n a says

    Being a parent is definitely sacrificing all that you once had for someone else and placing their happiness and needs before your own. It has it’s day of all love and sunshine and other days of struggling to stay awake the long hours. The constant worrying and making sure they have everything they need. But there’s nothing on this earth that will make you feel more loved, proud and happy than your kids.

    It’s another love, priceless, dateless it’s for lifetime! Would not trade it for anything🤍 they are my whole entire world

  8. Allie Zottola says

    So. much. truth.

    I am like you and didn’t realize how all-consuming parenting is… until I had a child! But it’s the best and most purposeful thing I have ever done! Thank you for sharing this 🙂

  9. Kally says

    Being a parent is hard. Being a mom? It’s harder. Because we tend to question ourselves and put enormous (if not, gianomous) amount of worry, fear, guilt upon ourselves.

    In the end, our children will turn out to be alright. (Or so I keep telling myself.. Lol!)

  10. The New Statistic says

    Parenting is not easy. We are making a major sacrifice when we make a choice to become a mother. I loved the toddler stage. I believe that is the easy part. Both my children are adults, raising them is over all we can do now is hope we did the best and they take our advice. Thanks for sharing this was a great read.

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