The word ‘Overthinking’ might sound as if all it does is harm our minds. But like it or not, thinking hard is one of the reasons why we end up making the right decisions. Being a teenager, I can surely say that overthinking has impacted my life in a bad and a good way.
Hey there! I’m Saumya from Draw-Write-Inspire, a teen blogger from India! My blog is mostly about poems, stories, music interviews, quotes, and lessons learnt by my life experiences. I’m very excited to be guest posting on Growing With Spawn. So after you read this post, don’t forget to read Shelly’s post on my blog which is linked below!
Overthinking is not bad until it crosses the limit
I know what happens when you overthink too much. You can’t focus on the important stuff and you can’t sleep properly. You don’t want to do anything else because your mind is thinking about other things. It’s okay if you are an overthinker. They are your thoughts, it’s your mind, you should know how to stop the voice inside your head from destroying you. Think of a happy memory, listen to music, talk it out with a friend. Personally, I prefer talking it out with your friends or whoever you are close with. They not only give solutions but also help you tackle it.
Overthinking and it’s good impact on my life
Everything has its pros and cons and so does Overthinking. As I mentioned earlier, it leads us into making right decisions which help us succeed in life. One thing that I have thought about a lot is my career. I am younger than a lot of people reading this and I am still in high school. I‘m up all night, researching careers related to my interests, finding out about universities, placements etc. I have been doing that for a few months and I can say I have a conclusion. Thinking about a career is one of the most indecisive jobs. I am proud to say that it’s because of me being an overthinker, I have achieved it.
I have often thought about whether I am working enough for my examinations. Thinking that if I don’t work hard, I won’t perform well, I always study more and score well in my exams. The mind and intellect is not always wrong. We should sometimes trust our thoughts rather than thinking ‘why am I overthinking?’
It’s because of overthinking about the arguments that I had with friends, I fix things. I think about what I could have said, what I shouldn’t have and how I can make it better. I am not someone who’ll stay in a feud with someone for a long time and I always apologise even if someone else is at fault.
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Overthinking and it’s bad effects on my life
Ruining my sleep
The worst thing overthinking does is ruin my sleep. I am not a morning person and usually stay up late. Almost all of the time the reason for this is because I am thinking about the perfect moments that I know will never happen. Sometimes it’s so lame that you might laugh at me if I tell you about it. I imagine myself hanging out with my favourite fictional characters and sometimes it is about me being Cinderella in my school play. We don’t even have school plays in my school but just because I saw it in a movie, I suddenly end up thinking about it. Movies make me overthink a lot. Last month I saw a movie called ‘The Illegal’ and the concept of the film opened my eyes. I couldn’t sleep the whole night until I went for a walk.
Making me less confident
When we think about something hard, we always make a pros and cons list. And in my list, generally the cons win. The case might be different with you but thinking too much makes you aware of the bad side of the thing and therefore you become scared to do it. If you think about whether you should take part in something or not, you definitely think about both of its merits and demerits. And demerits do make us less confident when we are doing the specific thing and we are afraid about what would happen next.
Prevent me from focussing on important things
As I mentioned, when I watch a movie I cannot stop thinking about it. I have been watching a Korean Drama Series lately and the female lead doesn’t seem to be ending up with the person I want. I keep thinking about imaginary moments between both of them. You see it? Sometimes it’s not even about
me. This obviously keeps me from focussing on things such as studying. There are times when I’m sitting on my studying table with my book open and wondering about their moments together. I will say overthinking is more of a distraction.
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Overthinking is a great thing if you know how to control it. It is also considered as a mental disorder and at the same time it’s considered good to give a thought to something. I worry and overthink a lot about each and every situation in my life, happy and sad. Yes, I have learnt a lot but I won’t stop myself from saying that Overthinking might have good impacts on me but mostly, It affects me in a bad manner. I try to control it and I have been doing that for a long time. Everyone has their own ways to stop Overthinking and if you’re an overthinker like me, you should definitely find a way out. That’s all about my life and overthinking, hope you liked it!
Go check out Shelly’s post on my blog by clicking here.
Saumya from Draw-Write-Inspire
Saumya B says
I had fun and most importantly, I learned a lot from you after this collaboration, Shelly. If I be honest, this was the most impactful collaboration that I have done! Thanks so much!
Shelly DS says
Thanks so much for the collab! You’re such a great writer and wonderful person. Looking forward to more to come 💖
Saumya B says
Thanks so much! Me too!
I’ve had a lot of problems with overthinking getting in the way of sleep. I’ve been using a meditation app when it gets really bad. Noticing when I’m overthinking and reminding myself to stop is getting easier.
Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) says
I love this post. I am working on a post about the life lessons from my cancer experience. You’ll love this one “Pre-cancer Michelle would overthink everything and she wasn’t much of a risk taker.” I literally typed that sentence last night, and woke up this morning to see this post, and your guest post on Saumya’s blog.
I’ve often wished I could be one of those spontaneous, throw-caution-to-the-wind type of people but I’m just not wired that way. These days, I stop and ask myself “What’s the worst that could happen?” That’s usually enough to make me realize it’s worth taking a chance.
Shelly DS says
Oh wow that sounds like a good read! I also wish I could be laissez faire but I think the world needs a balance. If we were all carefree, bubonic would’ve wiped us out ages ago!
Lebogang Shazzygal Malatji says
I love this
….informative and well written.
Overthinking is dangerous. It’s okay to be a little anxious about certain things so that you can work and find solutions for them, it becomes a problem when one starts to over do it.
That’s where triune begins
Shelly DS says
Thanks for reading! You’re right about being anxious in small doses. That adrenaline rush or sense of responsibility can actually be good!
Michael Christensen says
Great post that raises some questions for me. The ability to focus on an issue or have the passion to follow through is clearly a strength. The perfectionism of overthinking and the uncontrollable loops of obsessive thinking are much less helpful though. Is it possible to have the positive side without the negative or is this a package deal?
Nehal Jain says
Omg, I can’t relate more!! I’ve spent hours late at night, lying on the bed thinking about scenes between my fav characters! Lovely post!!
Shelly DS says
Thanks so much for reading sharing such lovely feedback! 💖