I recently commented on a fellow blogger’s post about how I felt frustrated with my blog and almost deleted it. Her response to me was to ‘never make permanent decisions on temporary feelings’. Deep isn’t it? Let’s take a moment to let that sink in because I am certain you need to hear this about something you are dealing with right now. I know I sure did! And after reading her response, I started thinking about all of the decisions I would’ve made if I allowed myself to act impulsively.
I would be divorced for the umpteenth time
I can count the number of times I prayed for a marriage and hoped that the ‘flavour of the month’ would pop the question. Ironically, I most likely would’ve said yes to any Tom, Dick, or Harry that asked. It was less out of how I felt about the guys, but more so how I perceived marriage to be.
Every Disney movie or fairytale ends with a “they lived happily ever after”. Every Hallmark couple somehow manages to fall in love over the course of a week. And every happy kid had two parents. I was doomed from the start — led to believe that love was the butterflies you feel when you see someone cute. And if I had allowed myself to act impulsively on those stupid hormones, I would’ve been married and divorced based on that feeling! *Cough. Britney Spears*
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If I allowed myself to act impulsively, I would be unemployed…
Gosh, this one is an impulse that I am still fighting with every fiber in my body. For the sake of not making it a reality, I’ll keep it as condensed as possible. Hehe!
My story is simple: every time I feel overwhelmed at work, I think about how I don’t ‘need‘ to work. I am doing it by choice. Every time I get irritated by my boss or colleagues, I think about how I could possibly earn more doing something less tedious. And when I need a third cup of coffee to get through the day, I wonder what drug was slipped into my drink to get me to sign my contract.
I could go on and on, but I’m sure you get the point. But it gets worse than that… Forget quitting – if I had acted on my feelings, my sleep-deprived, anxious and impatient self would’ve gotten her butt kicked to the curb on day 3. And yes, I am proud to say I would’ve at least lasted 3 whole days!
I would’ve had to declare bankruptcy
As I write this, I am thinking about all of the people who think I am great with money. If you are one of the delusional people, I hate to break the news to you… Not only am I bad with money, but I would also purchase a yacht in a heartbeat if I could.
Back in university, I had a habit of ‘depression spending’. What this means is that I would basically spend on food or clothes whenever I felt down. Call it retail therapy if you like, but the connotation of therapy is that it is remediating the problem. And in my case, not only was I not resolving the problem, I was adding flames to it!
When I was depressed because I was broke, I would spend money on myself. Guess what came after that expense? If you guessed more brokeness, you’re wrong… What followed was debt. Credit card debt!
So yeah, if I allowed myself to act impusively, I would owe more than Japan’s debt-to-GDP!
And I wouldn’t have any friends!
Many people know me as the diplomatic girl who doesn’t even swear… Others know me as a quiet pacifist who would never start or engage in an argument. Is this who I am? Yes, most times. Is this how I feel inside? Absolutely not!
If I allowed myself to act impulsively, I honestly think I would be in jail right now! Not only do I have a shorter temper than a toddler’s attention span, I also am very impatient. So when I think of all the times I bit my tongue to be a better friend, it amazes me how my brain hasnt exploded!
If you are one of those people who is able to act on their emotions and still be loved by all, spill the beans please. What is your secret?!
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If you made it this far in the post, thank you for sticking around. And, don’t worry, there is a point to my ramblimgs. But because I am feeling impulsive right now, I don’t think I will share it. 🙂
Now it’s your turn. What are some of the consequences you would experience if you allowed yourself to act impulsively?
Pssst! Let’s hang on the socials.