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  1. Ky says

    I love this! I always feel down on myself when I let the house go to spend time with my family, but it’s always so worth it. Practicing self love and self care has always been a big thing for me and I’ve started teaching my kids as well. So rewarding knowing good examples are being set for our future leaders. Very well written.

    • Shelly DS says

      If I posted pictures of how my house looks on the weekends, you would probably feel like a supermom! I’m glad you take good care of yourself. It’s something that I stopped doing as soon as my little one was born and realised that in doing so, I’m never 100% to look after her! <3 Wish you all the best with the little ones!

      • Mary Osadolor says

        I love this article, as a mother of 4, I sometimes feel guilty when I decide to do things for myself that don’t involve them, especially as my life has always revolved around them. I totally agree that no matter how hard you work to keep the home and family together, you definitely shouldn’t forget to take absolute care of yourself. You sure do need a sound mind to achieve this.

      • barbie mhanie says

        Having my kid is my greatest blessing from God. She’s my also inspiration why I created my blog. Being a mother is a wonderful feeling that I will value for the rest of my life.

  2. beth says

    i love your realistic transformation, that can only be learned over time and experience. this is so good for your baby as well as for you and your husband

      • beth says

        All trial and error for me, but I now have 3 grown daughters and 6 grandchildren and we’ve all survived in spite of what we did or didn’t do )

  3. Josephine Nerissa Leão Panzo says

    I like how your revised 5 step approach can be applied to a lot of things in life – I will definitely be using it as a guide for many situations. Thank you for sharing!

  4. Michelle (Boomer Eco Crusader) says

    A very inspiring post. We all start out with a vision of what a perfect mum should be. But it’s hard work and it’s more important to spend time with our kids than have a perfect house, perfectly cooked meals, and perfect hair!

  5. Brigit Pettit says

    Ok, I love everything about this post! I like how you tell us your original goals but then go into the issues and corrections. That is so helpful! Goals are meant to be adjusted in order to be achieved. Thank you so much for sharing!

    • Shelly DS says

      Hi Brigit, thanks so much for reading! Being a parent is so hard, especially when all the advice in the world feels useless because each kid is different. We really just need to keep adapting and working towards realistic goals.

  6. PoojaG says

    Not a parent but I love the post! I think a lot of times parents are expected to be perfect but at the end of the day they’re also human and trying the best they can.

  7. Krisna says

    I love how you adjusted your approach. I haven’t really paused and thought about my parenting style but I think it’s a good practice because it has a direct impact on kids. I’d love to be the perfect mom and wife who’s never late for anything, house well kept, no pile of laundry, etc. but nothing’s perfect in life and no one is perfect. As cliché as that sounds, it’s super true. As moms, we do our best and that’s the most important thing.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks hun 🙂 And you’re right, we just have to do our best and accept that nothing and no one is perfect. It would be nice if that was achievable though!

  8. justcalmwildness says

    Not a parent but I love this post. I read it yesterday and I had to come back and read it again. I never realized the intentionality that goes into parenting. This is gold. Thank you for sharing.

    I hope you and your family are doing well.

    • Shelly DS says

      Oh wow this really just made my day <3 thank you so much for reading and for taking the time to come back and share your kind words. I really, really appreciate it.

  9. Anne says

    Indeed inspiring. As new mum this reflect me on what I would be to my daughter. Your list and even the revised one are great. I’ve learned a lot. Thanks !

  10. Lyosha Varezhkina says

    very helpful guide and you definitely show everything about being a parent. I hope I will be able to work it

  11. Monidipa says

    Although I am commenting here today but yesterday I had already read it and shared it with my sister and sister in law, they absolutely loved it and they said these are the goals a parent must have and we also need to accept the fact that parents can’t be perfect too as they are humans as well but this approach can really make difference!

  12. Alyssa says

    I love the way you outline the background, problem and the steps you did to correct your parenting approach. It’s important to be aware of our strengths and weaknesses and there’s always room for growth. You’re an incredible parent!

  13. Sam Mitchell says

    I think you’re kinda good for having a plan! I just kinda go with the flow…but I must say…I’ve always put my kids first and seem to forget about myself and any form of self care. I’m a tad OCD so my house is always clean, however, I do only rest when I am just about breaking point…coz i seem to NEVER ask any one of my “couch potatoes” to help me! But I try do the best I can and do my best in trying to set a good example…

  14. Eric Gamble says

    So I am not going to lie, I am not a parent so my views here are strictly from the outside and perhaps how my own parents raised me and thus what I feel helped me as a child becoming a man. I think you were spot on with Routine and Patience! Those two of the 5 may be the biggest in my eyes followed perhaps by the Hair! I like the whole concept on prioritizing not only what is important (not hair design) while also showing your kids that it is okay with being yourself and sometimes that means wild, messy, greying hair! But with the rest, I think if I am lucky to become a dad, I will have to work on Patience the most.

  15. maryevardaman says

    I love how you show the problem and give a clear solution! Thanks for sharing these! Inspiring to me as a mom for sure!

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