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  1. Hilary Tan says

    When we tell others our grandiose plans, it tricks our brains into thinking that we have already accomplished something; we are more at risk for becoming lazy and never fulfilling these resolutions. It’s like getting a dopamine hit without putting in the effort.

    There are some things that I will disclose, like challenges for instance. Studies show that disclosing something like a short-term challenge holds a person accountable because they don’t want to disappoint others, and thus they will feel pressure to follow through to the end. Personal goals/resolutions however, are best kept secret 🤫

    • Shelly DS says

      You worded it perfectly! A dopamine hit without any effort. Of course there are the 20% who are successful, but I’ve personally found it to be a terrible decision for me.

    • Shelly DS says

      Thanks for sharing your views! Of course, everyone has their own decision to make, but these are the reasons why I don’t personally make or share resolutions 😉

  2. Stephanie Spinapolice says

    I’m all about goal setting. Although I set them for the year, they help me set smaller goals each month. So I may make a goal to explore 12 parks in 2021. Then, at the start of each month, I’ll look for an opportunity to weave in a trip so I can keep with my plan. Some months it just might not work out due to work commitments, kids’ schedules, or whatever….but I’ve still seen more parks than I would have without the goal. To me, that’s a win. I agree with your points that Jan 1 is arbitrary and that you should pick resolutions (or goals) that intrinsically motivate you. Finding the right goals is the real trick.

  3. ThinkTalk says

    I stopped making New Year resolutions several years back when I realized that they were futile, stressful, and sometimes paint one as undependable. I replaced them with annual and monthly goals.

    • Shelly DS says

      They are, aren’t they? I hope you’ve been sticking to your goals despite all of the curveballs that have been thrown your way! Thanks for reading and welcome to GWS 😊

      • ThinkTalk says

        Yep! There’s always a workaround – I look for them. I have learned that an excuse not to fulfill one goal can and often will snowball to affect the goal, and others.

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